I started writing this post about 2 weeks ago & got side tracked with THIS post idea, so now here I am revisiting this one…
I am going to answer a question today that I get asked very often, why?
Why do you blog?
Short answer, I love to write… I may not be the world’s greatest writer, but I love it and I could write for hours on topics that I love… I can lay in bed at night & think up some incredible posts and if I stupidly don’t write them down – I assure you are they are gone from my mind by morning… But I just really enjoy writing & I love to take photos, another thing I may not be overly perfect at – but it makes me so incredibly happy. And I love to share these 2… So blogging makes sense to me… When I started this blog I had the desire put on my heart to encourage & motivate other Mums, so ModernWifeLife31.com was born.
I have been blogging since February 2010 (on my original blog, Bella In Bindyland) – that is over 7 years of writing, uploading & sharing – I did take a year off when I had LuLu… But I’ve been in this blogging world for close to 8 years! (Actually I want to say before 2010, because back in the days of MSNspaces & Myspace I also dabbled in blog writing)
Back in 2010 blogging was different – the community was smaller, many people didn’t “understand it”, we most certainly didn’t get sent PR packages, we wrote real posts, we genuinely connected, social media was more limited and blogging most certainly wasn’t viewed as an attainable job for the average person, just yet.
I started blogging because I wanted to share my everyday. In 2009 my personal Facebook use to be full of posts summarising my days, so blogging to me was a natural progression…
(Fun fact; in 2009 I was regularly mocked & made fun of because I liked to post about cleaning my house & baking muffins – basically housewife stuff… So to those lovely ladies that made fun of me for “updating every time I picked up a spatula” – what I did then, is now considered a job & I get to encourage women daily, something I love to do.)
I was listening to a story on Instagram by Erin Morris the other day and she was talking about how much blogging has evolved in the past 6-7 years, it has gone from a small some what supportive community where sharing your story was encouraged, our posts were lengthy, full of feelings & had too many photos to now being essentially more of a business. (Erin has since written a post on this as well, check it out HERE)
I miss the old blogging, I love the new but I miss the old.
Sure, I 100% agree that being an “influencer”, “creator” or whatever term you wish to use – is an absolutely amazing choice of job if you can make it work… So I am not trying to discredit anyone for making this a job, heck that’s what I pretty much do. All I mean is I do miss reading genuine blogs, and instead of hearing what products they love (those posts are great though) I was getting to know them, I felt like I knew the person from the words they weaved together & the pictures that they sprinkled through out their post… Yes people do, do this to an extent on Instagram, microblogging is awesome, especially for busy people – I do it daily, but clicking on a website that tells someone story is so great – I remember losing hours scrolling through reading post after post on blogs & being inspired by people… I see social media as an edited version of someones existence, mine is intentionally curated.
In 2017 it is like the “raw” and “honest” blog posts (or social media posts) need to be somewhat vulgar or even humiliating to gain attention… That if a post doesn’t have that certain shock factor – it just gets looked over… Writing genuine, heartfelt words that you hope encourages others, is often not exciting enough or if you talk positively about life, you are mocked & called fake. Heck, I get this nonsense a lot – because I enjoy motherhood, being a wife & homemaker.
You know from reading my blog that I refuse to buy into the trend of vulgarity & humiliating my loved ones. I write my own truth. But occasionally I want to do more than that… I want to tell our stories too… Occasionally. Or I don’t know, gosh I would love to… But it’s hard…
The reason I took a year off from blogging when I had LuLu is because I know how damn awful & hideous the internet can be & I wasn’t sure if I could continue putting myself out there, or mainly – my daughter. My skin is thick, but when you are a Mumma you want to protect your babies… Once you open yourself up to the internet and start publicly sharing your life – you are allowing every kind of person imaginable into your life & for them to have an opinion… Most are so incredibly amazing & kind and others, others you wouldn’t ever want to know. That is the reason I don’t really share images of our kids publicly online, people can be hideous.
In the past 12 hours (this was 2 weeks ago) I’ve read a blog by Sarah Jane & watched a video by Samantha Schurman – both of which have decided to take a step back from being “so online” in their own ways… And both posts resonated with me… I love sharing my life, I want to share it more – but gosh I am hesitant to. And somedays I want to shut the whole thing down & disappear.
It is incredibly hard to share when you are aware of not only the creeps that lurk on the internet, but even worse are the ones who know you personally and actually really dislike you and still stalk your sites and write awful things – those people, they suck! Joy suckers…
So that is where I am at, I would love to more often do the occasional personal post – full of feelings or over flowing with lovely photos… But right now I think I am happy writing encouraging posts & aiming to motivate you all.
So I ask you, what would you like to read more of? I have had an overwhelmingly positive response from my cleaning posts/videos and that makes me so happy – but I would love to know what else you would love to read? What type of content would you like to see on my social media accounts?
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Have a lovely week!